so i’ve been thinking about how heavily women or female-bodied people are always so harshly judged in everything they do.
especially by people who supposedly oppose misogyny, sexism, objectification of women, etc.
if you’re a woman, everything you do has to have some grand motivation behind it. if you take a topless picture of yourself and post it on your blog, you’re either “omgzz subjecting to the sexist patriarchal standards that objectify your body!!” or you’re being a feminist hero and are empowering yourself! or, as much of society, would put it, you’re a shameless whore for putting your body on display.
it can’t just be because you felt like it, or had a whim. there has to be an agenda, or your tiny little mind was influenced by the evil man and caused you to post a topless picture.
i’m not saying it can’t be ~empowering~ for a female-bodied person to put their goods out there, since society tends to shame women who do so and enjoy doing it. but. it doesn’t have to be about being a feminist superhero. it could just be because you felt like it.
there have been a couple instances where right here, on tumblr, a photo of a woman posing provocatively caused tumblr feminists great distress. that doesn’t sound logical, right? feminist are supposed to respect the choices one makes with their body, right?
i remember there was this gorgeous glamour shot of a young blonde woman wearing heavy make-up and a cute sequin-y tube top going around on tumblr. half of the people reblogging it were tumblr ~feminists~ saying “THIS POOR WOMAN. SHE HAS BEEN INFLUENCED BY THE EVIL PATRIARCHY TO THINK THAT LOOKING THIS WAY IS BEAUTIFUL.” half of the reblogs went on this way until someone pointed out the she also had large, visible tattoos and that tattoos certainly aren’t for the most part acceptable for women to display, so how can she be subjecting to the patriarchy?
another time there was a simple photo of a thin white woman with long brown hair. she was apparently nude from the waist up and posed so that her hair covered her chest. a couple of the reblogs were (from tumblr feminists, mind you) like “OMG. I CAN’T BELIEVE THIS GIRL WOULD WANT TO TAKE A PICTURE LIKE THAT. PROBABLY TO PLEASE A BOYFRIEND OR SOMETHING. POOR GIRL.”
it doesn’t make any sense to me. obviously, there is lots of dialogue to be had about the objectification of women, especially in advertising and whatnot. but i think it’s important to remember that you can’t know every woman’s intentions by a photograph. you can’t know what’s going through her head.
i expect the majority of society to make all sorts of gross assumptions about judgement about what women choose to do with their bodies, but i’m kind of sick of seeing it come from the side that’s supposed to be down with female empowerment. i don’t know even know if i’m making any sense here.